=MickyW

Gender confused..

Well sh#$, I just can't win.

Journal Entry: Fri Nov 9, 2007, 4:12 AM

Mood: Lazy
Listening to: Assorted Audiobooks
Watching: Frasier DVDs
Playing: Rogue Galaxy
Eating: from the Bistro every day
Drinking: Rum + coke

I'm currently working on a new journal style....

But im lazy, so it goes slowly.
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Any of you who know me well will also know that I really don't get on well with my extended family. I love my parents and my big sister, but the rest can all take a flying leap for all I care - the amount of shit they've given me over the years could drown a city.

My parents came to spend the weekend, which is cool, cause I like to see them, and grandma's been better to me lately (now that I'm earning more than she ever did, like, ever) so its likely that I'll get much less drama this visit.
But we got a phone call tonight, saying that my other grandmother (on my dad's side) had a mild heart attack and is in hospital. Again. It's getting less and less likely that she'll survive the next 'episode' as my dad like's to put it, so we're all kinda resigned to the fact that she's gonna be gone soon after christmas, if not before.

Problem is, now we have to drive up to see her in hospital, for probably the last time, and dad wants me to come.

Here's my dilemma - what do I do?
On the one hand, I can opt out and stay home, on the grounds that I hate the old bitch and wish her a pleasant stay in hell.... and totally make my dad, with whom I have a great relationship, pissed and angry and disappointed in me.

Or, I could suck it up, tag along to with my parents all day, visit grandma in the hospital, then go visit all the other extended family that I hate, and basically have a totally crappy, depressing and miserable day.

What would you do?

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~MartmeisterPaladin

Nov 9, 2007, 5:02:12 AM

This is not easy of me to say, but I suggest that you go to her, Mickey. Make your peace with her. Say goodbye.

I am sorry, I am so sorry for what you have endured. It is wrong that they have done what you say they have done, but one simply has to grit one's teeth and take the insults as they come.

Brave heart, Mickey.

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One of these days, I will know what the kumquats are hiding from me... and I will claim their secret as my own....

~tekelili

Nov 9, 2007, 6:09:21 AM

I'd go with your family, as per the previous suggestion. Sure, you may not like her, but, saying farewell's likely to help you wrap up the emotional strings of the situation in the long run. It might be stressful, but, surely will be a soul-tempering experience for later years, it's sometimes good to face those things we'd rather not.

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

~FierceDeityFox

Nov 9, 2007, 6:50:35 AM

as much as this might sound effed up, i say stay. you hate her, theres no reason you should go. iv been in the same boat before, theres no point in you going if you dont care about her.
in makeing your dad mad.....i dont kbow what to say on that part. i just went with it. but im special case, so my opinions on these cases might not be good ones

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The Kamehameha is over rated and over used. Vote Hadouken and its variants today!

~ZS3

Nov 9, 2007, 7:04:40 AM

Just play it cool and let it ride!

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"Life is simple. We only insist on making it complicated."
--Confucius

~Khran1505

Nov 9, 2007, 7:31:03 AM

Tag along.

Is really having your way in spite of the bitch really worth losing the respect and love you have with your dad?

I don't think so.

=MTP623

Nov 9, 2007, 7:56:57 AM

As much as she's been a jerk to you, I would go with them to visit her. I think family, no matter how mean or nice, need support while family members are dying.

But I'm still sorry to hear about how members in your family have been treating you

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*Hugs you, wishing I could do that in RL

~jonjonthefox

Nov 9, 2007, 8:02:22 AM

sometimes ya gotta take one for the team

=AtimistFox

Nov 9, 2007, 8:20:21 AM

I'd go.... I know for a fact it would mean a lot to your family (if not just your dad) and Secondly, ya I would go and make peace with her... You might not like her and all, but to be honest, going to visit her won't kill you. It's one crappy day that might not be so crappy after all... Be optimistic, and at the very least, do it for your dad.

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You've crossed the finish line, Won the race but lost your mind, was it worth it after all?

~before-the-storm

Nov 9, 2007, 10:13:20 AM

I'd tag along and keep up appearances, and maybe make some peace as well...:/

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~Tiger-the-Inkweaver

Nov 9, 2007, 12:02:42 PM

Either way you are screwed. I personally would like to stay but I would never be able to live with myself, and there is the off chance that the extended family isn't like the flying bitch circus they almost always are. And if they do, you can just find a place to lock yourself up and do something "productive" away from them. That is what I usually do.

I know your pain dude, I also dislike my extended family and would rather be honest about it, and I think that is what ticks them off more.

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"Down With Ignorance, Up with Knowledge!"

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